Blogger Tips: How Not to Get Caught Up in the Comparison Game

Blogger Tips: How Not to Get Caught Up in the Comparison Game

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My neighbour, Sarika and I were sitting on the veranda of her home, sipping on chai and talking about a book based on the intricacies of the Human Mind that we had both recently read, when the front door opened with a bang and a tornado called Jai {my neighbour’s son} came in. He was accompanied by two of his friends from college.

They were chatting nineteen to the dozen. Much of the conversation seemed to be about the engagement/number of likes each had received on posts they had shared on Facebook. Oh the energy of youth! I felt as if an army had invaded the house. Boisterous boys!

I then recalled that it was just last week I’d noticed Jai’s face had both gloom and anger in it. Sarika had explained that he looked strained, because one of his blog posts had not been well received. Jai is a good writer and I must say I have read some of his blogs. They are well written. But I guess that sometimes, life does give us lemons, especially when we hope for so much more. It happens to all of us, doesn’t it? I am sure you agree with me.

 

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The above incident triggered some thoughts. One of the most difficult things about being in this industry is that everyone is really freakin’ good… And the Facebook likes Jai had received ~ gosh, how these aspects dominate today’s world. I started pondering on how the internet has captured us ~ heart, mind and soul. Crazy but true, this is how it is today.

Look around! People today are more tech-savvy and prefer online transactions to off-line. Distance, language or time is no longer a concern. The world is full of picture perfect selfies, perfectly articulated blog posts, visually stunning videos and short films, brilliantly crafted business promotion campaigns ~ every person, business or brand, is trying very hard to one-up the other! All this content is uploaded on online mediums like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Linkedin, You Tube, Whatsapp, Pinterest, Google+ and so many more ~ most of these uploads viewed and reviewed by people across the world. The reach of each of these mediums is truly incredible! Social media competition is here and gaining momentum. So it will.

 

And as preferences change, with this intense competition and pressure to generate amazing content ~ where it would seem like everyone out there, has aces up their sleeves, especially where social media campaigns are concerned ~ comparing ourselves to others is bound to happen.

When we look at another person’s online content, we start looking for snags in our own and the whole process takes a different direction. You start questioning your competence, your worth. It could even go as far as losing motivation.

When I started blogging, two years ago, I always found it difficult not to compare my work to those whose content I was engaging with. And I strongly feel that this is a struggle most people combat in the early stages of any creative endeavour. Just remember, once you start comparing yourself, it will become a habit that cannot be easily overcome.

What then, is the best solution to sort this crisis? How can the comparing stop?

 

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I’m sharing a few things I did that might work for you ~ here’s how to stop comparing yourself to other bloggers:

Focus: This is the most important aspect of blogging. You are bound to wander off your track, and this happens especially at the start of any venture. Be aware that you have started your project with a purpose. Mentally push yourself back on track. It is a struggle, but also the first most important thing to do.

Stay Committed: Don’t expect to be successful overnight. These things take time, but the wait is worth it. If you are committed to your project and purpose, you will slowly develop your own style. Trust this ~ you will be proud of your achievements!

Take An Internet Sabbatical: Which means staying away from browsing the net for long periods of time. Connect with your ‘self’, your creativity, your originality. Do something you like instead ~ listen to music, read, watch a movie or go for a run.

Copying Was Never The Answer: Cloning is never interesting, just mechanical. Nobody likes to read or experience repetition, over and over again.

Live In The Present: In the here and now. It will help you become more focussed, and connected to your inner power. A sure fire way to rein your wandering mind and allow the flow of positivity.

Introspect: Reflect on your journey. Measure the progress you have made from the day you started until now. This includes personal and professional progress. What you have learned? What you have experienced? Get into a habit of capturing each milestone, big and small. This exercise not only paves the way to a smoother and a much loved tomorrow, but gives you a sense of pride in what you have achieved. That is the start of success!

When Browsing, Choose Your Platform: I find Pinterest a great motivator. It’s inspirational and you can connect to it without feeling ~ “I am not as good”. At the same time, it provides you with numerous ideas to use without being self-judgemental.

 

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End note: Comparison kills creativity and originality. These days, I’d much prefer to be happy for someone’s success ~ and use it as a catalyst to get myself there. Remember, “What sets you apart can sometimes feel like a burden, but it’s not. And a lot of the time, it’s what makes you great.” ~ Emma Stone

 

How do you deal with comparison?

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40 Comments

  • I adore this post, Tanya! I’ve been blogging since 2012 and have experienced periods when I evaluate my work to others with similar blogs. I totally agree with you in that when I stop reading comparative online journals for a little bit, I’m a great deal more creative!!

  • This post is right on time, thank you Tanya!
    This is precisely what I am experiencing now. I am doing whatever it takes not to lose myself between comparing to the bloggers that motivate me and keeping my own unique style.

    • I think we all have something unique to bring to the blogging world. We all are different, and have different strengths. 🙂

  • Ah great advice! It’s so easy to get stuck in the comparison trap; however you’re right ~ there is room for all of us! I find that focusing on “staying in my own lane” does really help.

    • The comparison trap is so easy to fall into, Nadya. Whether it’s other bloggers, or something else that you do, the comparison trap will steal the joy out of life and your accomplishments.

  • Tanya I love this post! I love the advice that you give too… I feel like it is unique from what I have read before, and has inspired me to blog once more!

  • Thanks so much for this, Tanya. I have bookmarked this post and will no doubt keep going back to it! It’s difficult not to constantly compare yourself to others… For me this certainly comes and goes in waves, however I needed this today!

  • Thanks for this, really interesting and an alternate interpretation of things (from what I’ve previously read!). I love reading other blogs but sometimes stress over how much they influence me and hamper my creativity…

  • SUCH an extraordinary post, Tanya! I am currently in a funk and wanting to give up because of comparing myself to bloggers who have done it for so long. Comparison is truly the thief of joy and each one of those points you addressed rings true.

    • For me, taking a step back and deciding what I really want/need from blogging dependably makes a difference.

  • Yes to all of this! I was just talking to another blogger friend today about how much I value our friendship because we lift each other up and aren’t competitive. We share tips, articles, and what works for us. xx

  • This is such a brilliant reality check and something every blogger should read (perhaps every day!). Thank you!

  • Thanks for this guidance, Tanya. I compare myself way to much with other people and I annoy myself doing that! Always nice to read I’m not the only one.

    • I realize that it is difficult to not compare yourself to other bloggers. My advice would be to work more to find your own voice and style, Karyn.

  • I really needed to hear all of this today! I am a new blogger and am struggling to gain followers. I look at other people’s blogs and immediately feel dissatisfied with my own. This post really helped me feel better about my future and myself!

    • I just do the best “me” I can do when it comes to blogging. And sometimes that means almost perfect and sometimes it doesn’t, Karen.

  • Love your tips and reminders, because it’s natural to compare and to then put yourself down. It’s time to set out with your own voice and be authentic in your voice.

    • It is important to be yourself and to blog like YOU would blog. I think our readers recognize our authentic voices and gravitate toward those whose voices are apparent.

  • This is such an important post. I don’t have as much of an issue with comparing myself with others as I do from not acknowledging that I’ve accomplished anything at all. We all need to remember that we have our own gifts.

    • I blog more now with confidence and knowing that I’m having fun doing so. It’s not always easy, but it’s definitely rewarding.

  • Well said, I do the same ~ I always compare myself to others who I think are more successful and it is not healthy. I need to realize I am successful in my own right!

    • I would encourage you to gather your thoughts, check your emotions, and tell yourself that you can accomplish this. Then, go to work doing what you need to do.

  • This is one of the timeliest posts for me! I actually have been kinda feeling like like a fraud since I know I am doing well however I second guess myself – I am human!

  • It is so easy to compare yourself to others, instead of focusing on your triumphs. I try to block out the negativity.

  • This is great counsel! With age, I have seen that I am improving and doing much better about being myself and not comparing myself to others. xx

  • I used to constantly compare myself to other bloggers. I have discovered that I shouldn’t do that on the grounds that my blog is my blog, with my thoughts, and these thoughts are unique in relation to any other blogger out there.

    • Definitely an important perspective… I just try to stay positive and focus on all the great opportunities coming my way. 🙂

  • Love all this advice! Every now and again I get disappointed that my readership isn’t higher because I‘ve been blogging for so long!! In any case, I have a wonderful SMALL community of readers that have stayed with me the past 6 years, and that is awesome!

    • I completely agree with you: slow and steady wins the race! Success matters most when it’s on your terms!

  • I am so impressed with this post, Tanya! Elegantly composed and a valuable, creative viewpoint. I am looking to start a blog and needed to have this sound and practical advice! Thank you!

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