It’s Time To Fall Back In Love With Yourself
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~ Rumi
Valentine’s Day is here, and so is the pressure to play along with its conventions. Whatever be your current relationship status, we all reckon the importance of relationships in our lives. But we often forget how crucial it is to nurture our relationship with ourselves. Knowing how to fall in love with “you” is not egotistic or narcissistic, but the key to unlocking your happiness. So here I am, sharing five of my favourite little luxuries on how to fall in love with yourself, and begin the innermost process of self-discovery about love.
- A Pat with a Pen
A thousand voices might scream from your depths, conjuring comparisons with peers, and grating judgments. It’s time to cut some slack. Why don’t you pick up a pen/iPad mini and start jotting down your positive traits? It could be those abstract qualities or specific instances but find at least five of them. Words hold a lot of power, so writing and reciting them would help those compliments stay etched in your mind. Consider it a letter for your future self and one you will need the most when you are at your lowest.
- Wash Your Worries Away
In my mind, happiness is a warm, uninterrupted bubble bath. It’s certainly not a panacea for your biting problems, but it’s a break you need to unwind yourself. So, soak your worries in the hot tub and let the water droplets wash them away. Add a glass of wine, a bowl of strawberries, scented candles, and some music for ambience. 🙂 Sip on your drink and relax. While enjoying the time spent in your bubble bath, chant some positive affirmations ~ you will soon see how easy it is to fall back in love with yourself.
- Rediscover Yourself with Reading
Your daily life’s din and bustle might have deprived you of your chances to connect with words, but let’s tune into reading now. Lying in those words might be pearls of wisdom; text that will challenge your perspective, and push you to grow and unfold a whole new life. In my opinion, reading not only teaches you how to fall in love with yourself but also helps you feel more comfortable in your own skin. Many a time, I have found a few words or even a paragraph stand out to inspire me and help me rediscover myself. So pick a calm spot, turn the diffuser on, and dive deep into the world of that elusive book you’ve always been meaning to read.
- Lingerie that Makes You Feel…
When I started to work a 9-5 job post-graduation, I didn’t have a lot of money to spend on expensive clothing so I bought myself some beautiful inner-wear instead. To me, lace trim satin lingerie was {and still is} a great mood enhancer and a very personal way of expressing love for “me”. And trust me when I say, wearing lingerie in sensual styles gives you a pep in your step; improving confidence and self-esteem. Good inner-wear is the foundation to every look after all, and I have no doubt it will show you how to fall in love with yourself all over again!
- What you do versus what you want to do
Taking on life’s big tasks and responsibilities often means giving away our personal power, i.e. we forget to connect with our inner being. To focus on self-love, we must allow ourselves the luxury of a break from the humdrum of life. I believe that starts with a shot of digital detox; to forgo our electronic gadgets for a while, thereby disconnecting from the tension that stems from it.
Nourish your soul further by taking a riverboat journey into your mind’s jungles through a session of meditation or spiritual practice. When you strike a pleasant chord and feel vibrations of self-love, stay on that note and allow the feeling to linger. A realisation will soon dawn upon you that understanding how to fall in love with yourself is all about finding these little moments. You may now infuse this love with your interactions with others in your life.
To conclude: Your relationship with yourself is as meaningful as any other relationship in your life. Understanding how to fall in love with yourself is all about realising your intrinsic value and feeling compassion and love toward yourself. This will also help you to stop seeking approval from another or needing someone else to feel complete. So, once in a while, find time to indulge in some self-love and get to know yourself better. You deserve it!
What are your thoughts? How has self-love helped you? Share your experiences in the comments so it can help others.